Regaining Enthusiasm

How I Regained My Enthusiasm & How You Can Too3ddec2a4-3d0d-4742-98db-b639d2618a83

When I stopped writing my newsletter a year and a half ago, I needed a break! I had new things on my plate and rather than trying to do it all, I decided to back off on a few things. Besides that, I’d lost my enthusiasm for writing.

When our enthusiasm is gone, we feel stuck. I sure did! I spent some time down in the rut, but then, I took my first step. Being a coach, I knew that to move out of stuck, I needed to reassess where I was (overwhelmed) and then get clear about where I wanted to be. Since I was feeling overwhelmed, I backed off on things that were draining my energy. 

Taking a break is essential to being able to think clearly. Humans were designed to need rest and relaxation. Our brains need time think outside the confines of our daily grind. We also need to time to think about nothing!

Sometimes we only need a short break. Just a day away to REthink, REfocus and REmember why we are doing what we are doing.


I needed a longer break. Taking a break gave me time to refocus and get clarity. During my break I began working with Stronger Families as a Master Level Trainer. I was traveling all over the US doing presentations at military installations. Learning the ropes of traveling for work from making all the arrangements to being away from home, sometimes 10 days in a month – I was on over-load. Even though it was a great experience. It was too much to try to keep up with all I had been doing. I needed, and wanted to give up something. 

It sounds easy, ‘just take a break,’ but that first step can be really hard. Just knowing what to take a break from can be difficult! We get so bogged down with life and what we ‘have’ to do, that we have no brain space for what we ‘could’ do – or what we could ‘not’ do. We may have no idea why we’ve lost our enthusiasm, but it is gone – and we feel depleted. 

What I learned during my break from writing was that I needed to develop a team of  coaches to work with if I wanted to re-engage with writing and consider taking on more clients. I have done that and I have been inspired to write again! My colleagues are great! I will have (or will) introduce you to Kim Kompel and Ted Hackney in blog posts.

Though we may feel like we have no choice, isn’t being stuck just the result of making the same choice over and over again? I thought I “had” to write my newsletter. If I didn’t, I’d be throwing away everything I’d worked for. When we get stuck in a rut we begin to believe it’s the only way. We’re no longer going where we want to go but can’t see any other way.

Simply reframing our choices and realizing we are NOT stuck. We have chosen this path today. We must consciously recognize our freedom to make different decisions, whenever we are ready. Facing the reality of this freedom helps us feel much better! It can REnew our enthusiasm and bring life back our endeavors. 

How To Have Great Relationships-but don’t expect to like it!

10994946_10153140305943846_8240182326330972053_nIf you’ve read books about leadership lately, you’ve seen the phrases below adapted and rephrased then touted as good leadership skills. No doubt, they are! But rarely do we consider the fact that these things can, and do, serve all of our relationships well. They are the nourishment needed to make them blossom and grow. Consider them like Miracle Grow for relationships!

  • Build each other up
  • Serve one another
  • Carry each other’s burdens
  • Forgive one another
  • Be at peace with each other
  • Comfort one another
  • Care for each other
  • Show kindness towards each other

Breakdowns in relationships often begin when we start expecting others to give to us the very things we once gave freely. i.e. the things listed above.

Books about living a fulfilling life are full of examples of how a person’s life changes and becomes gratifying when 1.) they begin to live for a bigger purpose than themselves and 2.) they focus on giving rather than receiving.

Implementing the things above gives new purpose and meaning to relationships. And many find a sense of fulfillment by choosing, on a daily basis, this selfless way of living. (Don’t worry, people who focus on the good of a relationship, choosing to be a giver, cannot be doormats – but that’s for another article.)

What if this year you decided to bring your best self to your relationships, treating others as you wish to be treated? What if your thoughts, words and actions were not dependant of their choice of words and actions? Sounds depleting to think about but once it becomes a way of life, the contrary is true.

You may even find yourself feeling like a great leader and will likely begin living a fullfilling life, thriving together with those you love.

If that seems like a far cry from where you are, but want to move in that direction, you might be interested in relationship coaching for individuals. My slots are very limited, but I have great referrals and we’re planning on doing a Relationship Group in April at the Coaching For Wholly Living Spring Summit. Be watching for details.

 Speaking of groups, and the Coaching For Wholly Living WINTER Summit, I’ll be posting some AMAZING testimonials soon.

Testimonials About Groups

testimonial_bannerWith just three weeks under our belt we’re already getting great testimonials!

From the Midwest to the South to the North West . . .

Just a few of the Comments & Questions we’ve heard so far: 

( Wondering what groups I’m talking about? The Coaching For Wholly Living Winter Summit 2015 groups:
1 . CATAPULT! – How To Leverage Your Unique Wiring to Land Your Dream Job 
2. PARENT LIKE A PRO!– Successful Strategies For Families to Thrive  
3. BIOHACK! Your Health Naturally)

“It was a great first call!  I’m really looking forward to next week.”  – TX

“That was just my speed. I’m learning a lot… and I thought I knew a lot!” – MT

“That call was fantastic too!” (she signed up for multiple groups) – TX

“Thanks for sharing this. It was a great read” -(per a pdf shared by the group leader) – WA

Great call!!!! Really really really fabulous!!! -TX

“I really enjoyed listening to you as you asked questions to the young mother. You did a great job of making her answer her own questions and take ownership for them. I learned a lot from “watching you in action” that I can apply as I help others. Also, I was able to take my own question and think of it differently and analyze what change I need to make and think through the steps that must happen to reach my own goal. You have a gift with a compassionate yet direct approach. I was impressed with your style.” -TN


Each group has it’s own private Face Book group where particpants can ask questions. We post a recording with answers so they can listen and get their answers at their convenience.

Here are some of the questions rolling in from our BIOHACK Your Health Naturally! group.

“What’s the difference between a neuropath and a functional medicine provider/healthcare practitioner?” 

 “Can you address sweating, the benefits? Why some people sweat during sleep and is that good? Normal? Preferred?”

 “My question is whether or not the maltodextrin in Monk Fruit in the Raw (it’s also in the Stevia I use) is bad. What is Wakely’s take on Monk Fruit in general. I personally LOVE it.”

 “You asked the question “Do you remember your dreams?” What is the correct answer?” 


Be on the LOOKOUT

 for the announcement of the

Spring Summit groups.

Today’s Remarks From A Client

I finished up with my last 2 coaching sessions for 2014! As we were finishing up our call she said, “I am certainly a testament to coaching and you are welcome to share what I’ve said.” So here it goes… “Since I started coaching I have changed a lot. I don’t know what I’m going to do without you. Here are just a few of the ways I’ve grown:
– In how I view the business I own and the roles of the investors – it’s not so wrapped up with emotion any more.making_change_happen
– I’ve become much more self sufficient in a lot of ways
– I’m now living within my means – never had anything to budget before but now I do!
– In my relationships with people, family and friends
– My need to constantly pack rat has changed – been able to cleanse in lot’s of different areas.
– I’ve confirmed that quality is better than quantity
– I am confident in knowing that I am called by God to do what I do and appreciate the roles of others
– It’s become even more evident that it’s wise to include wise people in my life.”