Through the eyes of a cassa nova, I look like this? I was in Italy – but really? What I found out later is that it takes more time to draw wrinkles! I guess we didn’t pay enough to get reality so I look like I’m a 20 – nice!! Although, I don’t think I was ever quite that pretty but…. if you want to see me as youthful and beautiful, I guess I won’t complain. Ok, back to reality.
What is REALLY TELLING is that even through the lens of the photographer I look WAY better in the picture above than in the picture below.
It’s SIMPLY THE ANGLE from which he’s chosen to view me.
Suddenly I’ve gained 40 pounds, have scary eyes and an evil smile. Click the photo to enlarge it if you don’t see what I mean.
These untouched photos and portrait are perfect examples of how important it is to choose your angle carefully when looking at people.
Just like our physical appearance is dependent on the angle from which we are viewed, our character can also be viewed from various angles. We all hope to be viewed through a rose colored lens so that people focus on the good and beautiful parts of our personality. Unfortunately critical people do not see us that way yet there’s little we can do about it so there is no point in spending time worrying about it or trying to shift their focus.
Everyone is free to choose the angle with which we view people. One thing that can change the way people view us is to view others with grace – even our critics. Overlooking flaws and focussing on what is good in a person changes our relationships in incredibly positive ways. When we focus on the good we feel differently towards them which changes our behavior and almost invariably strengthens the relationship. Further, when we are less critical, we have more energy and our ability to positively influence the world grows.